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When I was just a wee lad I remember wanting things. Sometimes the things were material, sometimes they were emotional. I also remember thinking someone should just give me the things I wanted. I remember thinking it was not fair that I did not have something I thought someone else had.
"They" had a pet, so I should have one. They had a Daniel Boone Coonskin cap, so I should have one. They went to Disneyland so I should get to go, too.
A few years later, I had slightly different stories going on. He has a girlfriend, but nobody wants me. She gets to be part of xxx, but nobody would let me.
I guess it is part of the maturing process. Early stages of development includes a sense of entitlement. Adolescence is the short or long shift from that "do it for me" mode of thinking to "I'll do it for myself." For many young people, it seems a difficult transition. It certainly was for me.
I was a slow learner, though. It took me a long time to get that you can have anything you want, but not by just wanting it.
The household seems to be filled to the brim with teens who have not figured out that "just wanting it" isn't doing anything for them. In addition, they don't seem to have the concept "just not wanting it" will not prevent an unpleasantness.
Life is hard for them. They are suffering. They also cannot hear any conversation that will shift that point of view. It is frustrating at its worse and sad at its best.
"They" had a pet, so I should have one. They had a Daniel Boone Coonskin cap, so I should have one. They went to Disneyland so I should get to go, too.
A few years later, I had slightly different stories going on. He has a girlfriend, but nobody wants me. She gets to be part of xxx, but nobody would let me.
I guess it is part of the maturing process. Early stages of development includes a sense of entitlement. Adolescence is the short or long shift from that "do it for me" mode of thinking to "I'll do it for myself." For many young people, it seems a difficult transition. It certainly was for me.
I was a slow learner, though. It took me a long time to get that you can have anything you want, but not by just wanting it.
The household seems to be filled to the brim with teens who have not figured out that "just wanting it" isn't doing anything for them. In addition, they don't seem to have the concept "just not wanting it" will not prevent an unpleasantness.
Life is hard for them. They are suffering. They also cannot hear any conversation that will shift that point of view. It is frustrating at its worse and sad at its best.