Coach, coach theyself

[outlier_lynn]

I've mentioned several times in everyone's earshot that having both sides of a conversation in one's own head before actually talking to the other person is a sure setup for things not going well. Another side of this same issue is avoiding conversations because follow up conversations will be difficult.

We justify that second method with phrases like "I don't want to rock the boat" or "I can just learn to deal with disappointment" or any of a thousand other phrases that stop us from having the conversation.

I have been stopped in a conversation because I was not ready for the fallout. In my justification for keeping my mouth shut, I was getting to be "more enlightened" and righteous. It has been costing me my joy. I've noticed that little ittitations have started taking up my time. I'm falling behind my life plans to deal with little crap. And that conversation-that-wasn't is keeping me from expressing irriations, concerns and issues of lesser importance.

It will end soon.

For the Haven House folks. I call for a family meeting.

Comments

[scixual.livejournal.com]

You know MY schedule.

[elvengrrl.livejournal.com]

i wholeheartedly agree. i just said something to Chris last night about having one.

because there's something i want to bring up.

[scixual.livejournal.com]

Ooh, good!

I sometimes feel like I'm the only one who raises issues...