Lessons learned again and again and again.

[outlier_lynn]

For my who adult life I have learned, forgotten and learned again that living a great life isn't an all or nothing proposition.

Yesterday, at the Branting House Christmas Open House (the home of _greg and sherluv) I had delightful and insightful conversations with a few close and intimate friends. As I "confessed" some of my worst fears and greatest longings, I was reminded (I have wonderful friends) that when one is hungry, it isn't necessary to ask for a full banquet or ask for nothing. duh.

I have now made two requests (of two different people) to explore the possibilities of shared physical affection. For many non-obvious reasons, this kind of request feels like the biggest risk it is possible to take -- not because I might hear "no", but because I might hear "yes." I have gone to great lengths to avoid asking for anything more than a hug even in environments where much stronger requests were expected.

Once again, I have learned that it is possible to be open and forthright in my requests such that the other person feels the freedom to respond with a yes, no or a counter offer. And so that the existing relationship isn't compromised. Maybe I'll remember this time.

Life is completely grand. I have a few more requests to make. :)

Now if I can ever get through to the "citation department" at city hall, I can ask them why I should pay the same parking ticket twice. Sigh.

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[scixual.livejournal.com]

Was the other one the lady J?

Who I am in partnership ...

[http://users.livejournal.com/_greg/]

You inspire me!