Secrets and Lynn

I've mentioned this before, but I think a couple of recent events seem to call for my saying this again.

If you tell me something and you want me to keep it as a secret, TELL ME SO. I have no filter for deciding what secrets other people might want to keep and I have no desire to create such filters.

Some secrets are useful like root passwords on servers, pins and so forth. But secrets about our emotional selves keep us from being fully connected and fully present with people. I have no energy to spare for maintaining a "who knows what" database.

I know several people who will find some reason to disagree with my assessment. Fine. Believe what you will about the value of secrets. But do not expect me to "just know" that something isn't for public knowledge. You will likely be disappointed.

Bah. Humbug.

Well, the problem isn't frames after all. I'm still not fond of the way they are generally used. And sloppy html can make them really awful.

But something else is giving me the fits on this problem. I need suggestions for good a good forum application to run on a Linux server.

Here's what I'm looking for: (++ Requirement, +- Strongly preferred, -+ Preferred, -- Would be nice)
+- PostgreSQL
++ User Registration (automatic email conformation)
++ Moderation
++ Customizable interface
-- Embeddable in existing dynamically served pages
++ Multiple forums and topics
-+ Threaded topics
+- Private or member on forums
+- Ability to turn off or disable unwanted features
-+ Something other than php
++ FREE and open source

Here's the two I want to replace: phpBB2 and php-nuke